Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce are adorable – or they’re cringey? They’re beautiful – or they’re repulsive? They’re giving you hope – or they’re making you feel lonelier than ever?

When happy couples hold hands, share a smooch, make heart hands and more, people on the sidelines form opinions about their interactions. Some are positive and supportive. But often people pass judgement and have negative thoughts while watching a happy couple be, well, happy. Why?

“She’s a woman supporting her boyfriend, just as he’s supported her,” one mom of a Swiftie wrote in a public Facebook post. “Maybe it’s love that will last, maybe it won’t, but can’t we be hopeful and happy for someone else’s happiness?”

Experts say your take on happy pairs, like Swift and Kelce, may reveal way more about you than the couple in question.

“Our tendency to be happy for others or experience jealousy is strongly related to how we are experiencing our lives and relationships in the present,” says Miranda Nadeau, a licensed psychologist.